Show Some Leg

Shorts are a staple for summer

Especially in the death heat that is Alabama summer.

Sadly, my closet is down to about one pair that fits

On the bright side, that means I have an excuse to add this year’s trends to my closet.

Show some leg



Patches have made a comeback and my tween heart doesn’t care how lame you think this is!!! Downside- AE is charging WAY more than they should for this trend. Plus side- Thrift stores have so many shorts and you can buy patches on Etsy or at Michael’s pretty cheap. DIY patch party anyone?!?


Matching two piece sets have been on my skeptical list for a while now. At first, all I could think about was how tacky it was going to look having all the same pattern on. But the more I see it on people, the more I fall in love with this trend. Personal Tip- keeping it to one bold pattern is enough. I have seen some that get a little too extra. For me, that just makes go down hill fast.


Oh, the love-hate relationship I have with rompers. I have always been afraid of them due to being so short. But this year I’m throwing away all those fear and I am on the hunt for the perfect one This one for Charlotte Russe is a close contender- Because really who can say no to cut outs AND floral.


Another year has come and I still have not made it to the holy grail that is Coachella. Of course, that isn’t gone to stop me from letting my inner wild child shine and stocking my closet with festival shorts. High on the list are these ones with the side lace for a little extra fun. ( maybe add some patches! All the trends.)

What is the short trend you all are looking forward to most?

Leave it in the comments.

Xo- C


Ragnar Diaries: Road to Ragnar

If you had told me a year ago that I would be gearing up to run a 200-mile relay race with 11 of my friends. I would have told you that you were on crack. Yet here I am running around getting everything ready to pack up for what I am expecting will be one crazy weekend. (if you don’t know what Ragnar is Click the link here and take a look at the insanity that will be happening this weekend)

You may be wondering how I found myself doing something so outside my comfort zone. Well, it all comes down to the ” year of yaaaassss” and my love of pizza. ( yes. I agreed to this for free pizza- this is not the first time I agreed to do something because of the promise of free pizza)

When my friend asked me back in November ( I think, dates are hard.) I looked at him like he was insane. But since I wanted to stick to my ” year of yaaaassss” I said sure why not. Thinking of course that there was still time to back out.

I started training on my own around that time. At my first run, I thought I was going to die and my average mile time was around 17 minutes. I remember sitting on the floor at the gym thinking “there is no way in hell I can do this. JK is going to kick me off his team.”

Yet I kept going because I had talked about it so much with everyone that I started to get excited. I mean who wouldn’t be excited to be jammed in a van with their friends while all gross and sweaty….( partial sarcasm).

We started doing Saturday runs together outside to get used to running not on a treadmill. Somewhere in the training it got to a point where I really started to look forward to Saturday runs and not dread everything about them. My miles and speed slowly started to increase without me even noticing it and my confidence about the race started to get a little higher (not much.. but a little)

I’m excited and nervous about how this weekend is going to go. Either way, it is going to be an interesting story to tell for a long time. And for those who know me, know how much I love bragging rights 🙂

The last two days have been filled with packing, prepping snacks, prepping amazing playlists and trying to tune out the nerves while I get ready to spend 36 (+) hours with my VanFam!

Don’t worry blog friends- I will updated you on how everything goes!**

Xo- C


** If you follow me on Instagram I will be posting and Insta-streaming events of the weekend!  If you don’t follow and want to check it out- My insta username is Cupcakenova. ( I will be making my Insta public for this weekend only for those who want to check out the craziness!)

Swim into Spring

Happy Second Day of Spring!

(Yes this is going up a day later than I wanted it to.. oops)

I don’t know about you all, but I am so ready for sunshine and warm days.

Sadly my wardrobe is a little less ready.

Which clearly means it is time for me to start searching fort the perfect spring trends.

I’m dedicating every Tuesday from now until May to searching and sharing my favorite spring trends!

Up first  Swimwear!

Swim into Spring


For me- this summer will be all about cut-outs, halter necklines (this year’s tan lines are going to be the best!) and bold colors/patterns!

What is your favorite swim trend? Let me know in the comments.


The years pass, but they never get easier

I knew I wanted to post today

But I had known idea where to start

How do you write about something that completely changed your entire life in one small moment?

Yesterday I went to a World AIDs Day event to see a friend speak about a family member she had lost to the disease.  In her story, she said:

 ” Something’s change you right in that moment and others change you over the rest of your life*” 

She has no idea about my experience in 2003

and she probably has no idea how that one sentence resonated with an experience completely different from hers

December 2, 2003: 

In that moment, death became real.

 Not in an old age” way

Not in a ” life threatening illness” way

Not in a “car accident” kind of way

But in a way that someone actively decided to end their life.

And all I could think in that moment was “why?” and “How?”

Why did you feel this was the only way?

Why didn’t we notice?

Why are people so insensitive about what happened?

Why aren’t we talking about this?

How come the school isn’t talking about this?

How does something like this get pushed to the side?

How do we stop this from ever happening again?

These questions have stuck with me for the last 11 years.  And over the years, it has not only shaped the kind of person I am but my career path.


These are the topic that people do not want to talk about.

Suicide, death, and depression

But not talking about them does not make them go away

Sadness is real, Depression is real, and sadly Suicide is real.

And depression takes so many forms:

The depressed person can be that person who “Acts out and is impossible to deal with” Because they have no outlet for their emotions

It could be that student with the straight A’s who buries themselves in work because they don’t want to deal with the real world.

It can be that person who sits quietly, going day-to-day doing what they have to do to survive but never really living outside that comfort zone.


But until we live in a world where people do not feel isolated or are no longer spoken badly about for talking about their feeling, their anger, their sadness, and all the other things that make up the “ugly” side of human life

We will never live in a world where people feel like their life matters…

…and every life matters.




(*this may not be verbatim, I’m really bad at quoting)

Oh hey Summer.

Holy crap,

It is officially summer.

Which is weird to me because it has felt like summer for the past 2 months. Now we are just in this weird humid hellmouth. (southern weather + curls = mean)


But still, I feel like it was just New Years Eve. and now I’m one week away from turning 26, my VISTA year is over in exactly 2 months, and I have no idea what the heck I am doing with my life. (but let’s be honest with ourselves. no one know what they are doing, we are just all really good at pretending to be adults.)

But with all that real life stuff aside (future Cassi can deal with that later!) I must say I am very happy with my choice to stay here.  I feel like I got a lot of push back from people who think I am insane for not coming back up north after this VISTA year. And maybe I am insane. Who knows.

But so far this summer has been filled with going to the fairs, balloon adventures, cook outs, karaoke nights, movie dates, hiking, and soon my first ever canoeing adventure.

I’m excited to see what it brings next 🙂


X0X0- Cassi


Manic Monday: Being an adult is hard.

Don’t get me wrong. I love living on my own and doing this whole “grown up thing.”

But living away from home had made me really realize a few things I never knew that I either A) had no idea how to do or B) never realized how annoying they are. Because let’s be honest here, 7 years of higher education really prepared me for nothing. (not a thing. Except maybe how to avoid public safety on a Friday night… Thanks SNHU and Wheelock!)

Things I have no idea how to do:

Taxes: I don’t get them, I don’t like having to do them. And when I fail at doing them myself, I hate that  I’ll have to pay someone else to do them. There just needs to be a machine that I can just take pictures of all my documents and it does all the work for me… for free.. Come on science get on that.

Take care of my car: Oil changes? New Tires? Check Engine light?… What is all this craziness?!.. I know how to put gas in you and drive you places.. That is about the extent of that. (the poor BassMobile, I should probably learn these things )

Being on time:  I don’t know if this is a new thing.. (Have I ALWAYS been late for everything?) For some reason the concept of getting someplace at the correct time has escaped me. I am at least 5 minutes late for everything no matter what time I get myself out of the house (by 5 minutes I really mean like 15.. but really who is counting).

Going to the Doctors for anything other than an emergency: Yup I’ll admit it. Unless I have a life threateningly high fever, I will most likely wait out what every sickness I have. (and sometimes not even a fever will get me to go.. oops) I don’t have a PCP or honestly even know how to get to the closet hospital (Wait that is kind of a lie..I know where it is!!.. sorta… okay yeah I don’t know where it is…. damn…) How do you how you even go about finding a PCP?… Dad I blame you on this one!

Things I have learned are annoying and I hate them:

Laundry (More specifically putting laundry away)……..Just no. I don’t have time for this. Put yourself away.

Grocery Shopping:  I’m sorry but why is food so expensive?  It is a basic need.. why are you charging me so much for meat products. Fuck that!  Oatmeal, peanut butter and coffee until I die! (Which will probably be young since I’m living off oatmeal, peanut butter and coffee).

Bills: I have always known bills suck. But living on my own has made me realize it even more. Especially when there is a polar vortex and the utilities bill doubles in a month.  ::Sigh:: 


Jenna Marbles speaks to my soul

Lunch Hours: Okay so I know I’m probably going to get feedback on this. “What! how can you hate lunch hours! it’s a break from work!”  Don’t get me wrong I love eating lunch.  I would just rather take a 15 minute lunch and go home earlier than sit around twirling my thumbs for an hour. Because really who takes a WHOLE hour to each lunch!

Networking, Job interviews, meeting people for the first time:… And basically anything that involves face to face social interaction.  (This is why we have the internet!!) If I don’t know you already, chances are talking to you makes me uncomfortable and socially awkward. (Mostly because I am painfully socially awkward)

Basically can I just go back to the days where my biggest worry was if my cousin had sunk ALL my barbies to the bottom of the swimming pool.


Here we go..

Happy Monday Lovies!,

Today marks my third week since starting my adventure to the south and is the first week that I am DONE with the “settling in “process.  We have moved into our apartment, my car has been purchased and I am as unpacked as I can be. Yeah I still need to decorate and make the place feel homier. But other than that I am ready to start exploring the place I will be calling home for at least the next 12 months. And most importantly start to create a group of friends here that will make things a feel a little more like home. With the internet finally up and running properly, I can focus a little more time here with all of you.

This past weekend has been a glimpse into what I hope weekends will start looking like. With a free concert on Friday and night out dancing Saturday it almost felt like I was back at home. I’m actually started to become excited about going out again and meeting new people. Which is not something that has been high on my list of things I enjoy doing. I’m starting to realize that it is amazing the things a person can force themselves to do when they no longer feel like they are being held back by something.

Hope everyone has a great Monday. And don’t worry lovies the weekend is only four days away.

XoXo- Cassi